On the weekend from March 27 to March 29, 2015, 3 persons in Seattle’s capitol hill neighborhood left a bar at 2:00 in the morning. They were two women, sometimes described as girls, and one man. In news reports, the day is given as Saturday, but we don’t know if that meant Friday night into early Saturday at 2:00 a.m. or Saturday night into Sunday at 2:00 a.m.
A group of 5 to 8 other men approach the 3 who have left the bar. Some of these men “grab at” the women, and say, “I just want to hug you,” and similar things. The man with the two “girls” says something to discourage them and they then attack him, leave him unconscious and steal his wallet. The man is taken to the intensive care unit at Harborview.
There have been eight other reported assaults within a 2 blocks of this location, reported in the week previous to this.
The question that I have is whether or not, if the women had offered to hug and/or allowed a butt pat, would that have defused the situation, or would it have been neutral or would it have made things worse?
I don’t know . . . If the women had offered to hug and then been hugged, would the men have attempted or expected sex?
When “we” hug others the brain has oxytocin released and “we” tend to feel better about life and others.
In the American Indians before the arrival of the Europeans, rape was nearly or completely non-existent . . . one major factor for that is believed to have been the different attitude (more liberal) towards sex among the Indians.
Here are some statements in wiki about Oxytocin, sometimes called OXT.
Oxytocin evokes feelings of contentment, reductions in anxiety, and feelings of calmness and security when in the company of the mate. This suggests oxytocin may be important for the inhibition of the brain regions associated with behavioral control, fear, and anxiety, thus allowing orgasm to occur. Research has also demonstrated that oxytocin can decrease anxiety and protect against stress, particularly in combination with social support.
After treatment with inhaled oxytocin, autistic patients exhibit more appropriate social behavior.