I wrote an essay about the abundance of “run hide fight” videos, supported or funded by a variety of governments and the videos are of trainings teaching you how to survive an active shooter situation. Supposedly your chance of being shot by a co-worker is about 1 in 2 million and your chance of being shot by a terrorist in America is 1 in 20 million.
I wrote the essay on the topic of rape resistance training. If we are to believe the feminists, rape could be commonplace in college and in high school. Now, I have my doubts that it is commonplace, but it is certainly more common than being shot by a co-worker.
Now, we would assume that a group or site such as the Huffingtonpost would have an interest in publishing ideas that would reduce rape. Alas, that seems to be not the case, when it comes to women recognizing a threat and resisting a rapist. I submitted my essay for publication and they have not gotten back to me. Not my essay, at least. A few months ago, they published an essay by a woman discussing whether or not catcalling is sexual assault and whether or not you or I, as bystanders or leaders, should put a stop to it when others engage in it!
Here is the essay I wrote:
In public schools, today, there are several topics which are covered regularly, even if for only 5 or 10 minutes per year.
These possible emergencies include earthquake, fire, and an active shooter.
Active shooter training in high schools will commonly consist of between 5 and 60 minutes of instruction and discussion. The active shooter trainer is simply a slightly different form of the same training offered in businesses, governmental agencies and colleges. The training is summarized in 3 words: Run Hide Fight.
Today, there are dozens of Run-Hide-Fight videos anyone can view on youtube, some of which have been filmed in schools, in classrooms, with or without a live class present.
Your odds of being shot by a co-worker are 1 in two million. Your odds of being shot by a terrorist in America are 1 in twenty million.
It is great to be prepared, but the high schools which have done Run-Hide-Fight training of their kids are missing a real and serious danger.
Every year in every state there are girls who are raped in high schools or off campus, by friends, strangers and acquaintances.
The number of rapes of girls in high schools, on or off campus, dramatically overwhelms those killed by active shooters. Yet at least some schools appear to be doing poorly in offering the best advice to stop rapes.
Consider the recent case of reported rapes in a high school a few miles north of Seattle, Washington. A student was alleged to have raped another student in a hallway at 4:00 p.m., after the end of the usual school day, in January 2016.
Police investigated and charges were brought. The school expelled the student, but allowed him to continue at home schooling pending the criminal proceedings. The alleged victim was subjected to peer pressure, abuse and bullying from classmates for making and pursuing her allegation.
Rather than dealing with abusive classmates, the alleged victim told police she did not wish to pursue the case.
Over the next 15 months, the alleged perpetrator continued to have friendly contacts with a number of his friends and acquaintances in the school, seeing them at work, in the public or at social gatherings. During the next school year, he offered one of them a ride home from work and according to police, raped this girl who accepted his offer of a ride home from work.
The girl and this fellow exchanged some text messages, including the fellow making incriminating statements, which were found on the girl’s cell phone by her father and then turned over to police. The girl claims in fact that she knows of others whom the alleged perpetrator has raped, but who have not chosen to come forward and publicly accuse the man.
During this process, some student journalists interviewed school administrators and staff on the topic of rape and assault and wrote an article in the school newspaper. The leading idea offered by school staff to stop rapes was for the young ladies to have and communicate boundaries to their partners.
That this is the leading idea taught by school staff to stop rapes is clear from the student newspaper’s article, unless we wish to assume that school staff offered a different idea which the student journalist omitted from her article.
So, what should the girls from 6th to 12th grade be taught, instead of or in addition to having boundaries?
1) Recognize the threat. Know that some people who grab you, pull you or push you to the ground often intend to rape you. Know that you can run or fight back, if you wish, and that fighting back will reduce the chance that the guy completes the rape. A lot of girls and women freeze up when being attacked. They do not know if they should fight, if they can fight back and how. As a result, between 25% and 70% of women being raped freeze up and do not fight back. Freezing up is a normal but generally counterproductive response. If you can recognize a threat from a person being he has grabbed you or pushed you to the ground, keep him away from you in whatever way you can.
2) Decide ahead of time if you wish to fight back and injure your attacker, if need be, in the process. A lot of women in the process of being raped, have the choice between going along with the rape and fighting the guy to the point of injury. Martial arts teachers have taught women’s self-defense classes and explained a technique, and had some women students say, “I would not do that; that would hurt him,” meaning, that could injure him.
3) Be violent, if you choose to fight. Use a bony part of the body or a fist used as a hammer and strike ears, eyes, nose and neck or groin. It does not matter how big and strong the guy is, if you can hit his eyes or ears or neck, for those are sensitive and weak parts of the body. There are 8 or 9 recognized parts of the body which are sensitive and liable to cause serious disorientation pain or injury if hit, twisted or pulled.
4) Keep fighting for one or several minutes, if needed. There are many cases of attempted rape which were stopped by a woman fighting for more than a minute.
5) Consider weapons that might be in the purse or carried, such as pepper spray, hairspray or a kubotan.
6) Read the Kelly Herron story, who took a basic 2-hour women’s-self-defense class and a few weeks later was attacked in a bathroom stall in a park by a man intent on rape.