I walk at Greenlake and I do other things in other aspects of my life.
It happens from time to time that I do something in some place or situation other than Greenlake and I hear from someone that I have made someone else (basically, nearly always anonymously) “uncomfortable” and once in a while I get asked to leave some particular place or change some something.
The people who have made complaints to management that I have made them uncomfortable in some way are nearly always completely anonymous and nearly never talk to me personally about the thing that allegedly made them “uncomfortable.” In one case, someone exaggerated so completely something that it was clearly false as part of a complaint about my making her or him uncomfortable, but she or he did so anonymously and without sufficient detail for me to prove that the claim is false . . . as if the management would have believed what I said anyway, since complaints are usually presumed to be true.
Anyway, it is interesting to see in the news the story of a mom breastfeeding her kid in a restaurant in Bremerton. One person helping to run the restaurant or the manager hears from other customers “complaints” that the mom has made them “uncomfortable.” The manager asks the mom to cover up with some blanket and the mom doesn’t like the request.
The news crew talks to both the mom and the manager and they have completely different tales as to how much or how little of the breast of the mom was showing. The manager claims that the whole breast was showing. The mom claims it was a minor fraction.
The mom posts her experience on social media and other breast feeding moms decide to visit the restaurant and call to let them know their views. The restaurant manager claims she is all oppressed and weighed down by the blowback . . . Oh, we love breast-feeding moms, she says . . .
After I have been told a dozen times that I had made some anonymous person uncomfortable in some often undescribable way, thank God a store manager finally took some heat for this type of thing–relaying complaints that might or might not be true . . . and whether or not true, were pointless . . .
One question that arises in this case is whether or not, in order to make the complaint seem more valid, some people or the store manager exaggerated? I don’t know but I know it happens . . .